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Thursday, February 3rd, 2011
10:42 pm - Recruiting Married Females with Divorced Parents for Online Study
I need your help! Recruiting Married Females with Divorced Parents for online dissertation study. Click link below to take study and pass on to others you know. Chance to win $50 Visa gift card.


Participant Requirements:
• Are 18+
• Female in 1st time, heterosexual marriage
• Experienced parental divorce
• Have had contact with biological father in past 12 months

Thank you!


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Monday, August 10th, 2009
12:39 am - Question to all

Hey guys! I'm going to get an MBA degree as I found on the website the information that average MBA salaries 2009 is twice higher than before getting  MBA. I would like to hear some opinions, is it true? Does anybody have such
an experience or maybe know any evidence of that. Thanks.

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Saturday, May 30th, 2009
2:04 pm - On not surviving.

I am sorry for using an empty account. At this point I am so humiliated and defeated that I have resorted to lying to everyone I care about what's actually happening to me and so I don't want to associate this post with my real lj name that, consequently, virtually everyone I know in RL knows about and reads.

As an undergrad I was completely unstoppable as I imagine many of those reading were. I went to a school that is routinely as a top five institution (and often top three depending on the ranking) in the world. It was hyper competitive and large and I fought hard to distinguish myself. I was invited to Phi Beta Kappa as a junior, and by the time I graduated I had three publications, one of which was in a discipline other than my two majors. I had a 4.0 in both majors and a 3.9 overall. My GRE scores were the envy of my peers. I had worked with some of the top minds in the world doing original research and they all wrote me glowing letters of recommendation. I was applied to only the top grad schools in my discipline, I was accepted to all five. I went to my first choice with 6 years of full funding.

I don't mention any of this to brag, for all these "accomplishments" are completely meaningless. I mention it only to illustrate that I was, at one time anyway, a good student by most standards. I was hard working, motivated and somewhat smart. However, graduate school for me, from about half way through my first semester has been one big fight to stay sane and healthy.

I've been here for two years and in those two years I've had more than a few complete mental breakdowns, I usually have such a high level of anxiety that the mere thought of school makes me want to just crawl into bed, curl up into a little ball and disappear. I often throw up around finals time without warning. I've dropped an unhealthy amount of weight and I when I sleep, especially towards the end of each semester I usually have anxiety dreams and wake up sweating with my heart racing.

Nothing I've ever produced here has warranted praise or even approval, if I'm lucky I'm met with indifference but more often than not I'm met with scorn. It doesn't matter how hard I try or how much I work, I'm never good enough. I am a straight B student. Most recently I received an e-mail from the head of my department (and a total big name who does what I want to do) telling me that the paper I produced for his class (which I had talked to him in depth about) was something he might expect from an undergraduate and not even an advanced one. And even though I was a prime contributor in his class, he gave me a grade that dropped my already suffering GPA below the acceptable level for me to keep my funding (3.5). In other words, I am completely screwed.

I don't know what to do.  My life, my dreams and all my priorities have been completely dismantled in the last two years. My peers have all but completely left me behind and the worst part of this is that I'm so embarrassed that I feel like I can't tell anyone. Not my family, not my friends and not my girlfriend. Everyone expected so much of me, and I can't help but feel like a disappointment on everyone. I have no other prospects. Just a useless MA in a horrible economy and more debt than I care to think about.

I'm not asking for anyone's pity. I know full well that I caused all this ruin, I just desperately needed to tell someone what's happening to me without having to omit major parts of the story. So, thanks for reading. Also, I'm still trying to determine whether or not this is survivable. If anyone else has been in a situation and had a happy ending? I just don't know what the right move to make it anymore.


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Saturday, April 25th, 2009
4:31 pm

Hi, I’m a graduate student at CGU and am in need of participants for an online survey that I am conducting.  The survey has to do with beliefs about police interrogations and confessions.

The survey should take no more than 15-20 minutes.  In order to participate, you have to be over the age of 18, and reside in the United States.

To take the survey, please click this link. http://www.surveygizmo.com/s/118794/zh3t4

Thank you for your help

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Thursday, March 19th, 2009
4:09 pm - French Proficiency Exam Dictionary

Hello all! I'm taking my French Proficiency exam on April 1, and I need a really good dictionary for the translation.  Does anyone have a suggestion? Thanks a lot!

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Thursday, March 12th, 2009
12:58 pm - Why I hate my lab

"Why I hate my lab," a summary of my graduate career thus far in three parts.


Me: Protagonist, second-year grad student girl.
Bossman: Brilliant mind of our field, head PI of our lab, captain of the ship. Antagonist.
New guy post-doc: Post-doc that came in 9 months ago.
Former-postdoc-new-PI guy: Was previously post-doc in our lab, got a PI position in our lab. Idiot.
Girl tech: Brilliant girl with 3 years in our lab. Will someday leave to pursue a DVM/PhD.
Girl post-doc: Behavioral post-doc in her third year. Also brilliant. Also getting the f' out of here in October.
Bossmen: Other PI guys, generally helpful and intelligent in their respective niches.

On a dark and stormy morning...Collapse )

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Monday, February 9th, 2009
3:43 pm - A small quote from a recent NYtimes article had me thinking.

The article asks why so many of Darwin's breakthroughs took so long for other scientists to understand.

"One of Darwin’s advantages was that he did not have to write grant proposals or publish 15 articles a year. He thought deeply about every detail of his theory for more than 20 years before publishing “The Origin of Species” in 1859, and for 12 years more before its sequel, “The Descent of Man,” which explored how his theory applied to people."

Do you think the pressure we have to publish actually diminishes the creation of new knowledge? The reason I ask is because I personally have a number of smaller research pieces out there but the primary thing I want to do is write about larger issues and connections. What do you think?

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Monday, December 15th, 2008
3:08 am - Finally!!! lol


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Friday, October 24th, 2008
9:07 am


Win a signed copy of Ramen Noodles, Rent and Resumes: An After-College Guide to Life! 

Feel free to repost this!

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Tuesday, October 14th, 2008
4:30 pm - opinions

Hey everyone- I am working on my personal statement for my doctoral application. I would love any commentary on it. I placed the topic at the beginning (obviously I will remove it when sending it in)

Please elaborate on your study interests listed above and their relation to your previous studies, employment experiences, and professional goals, as well as any other information that would be helpful in evaluating your application.

I sit in my corner office, staring out the window at the white puffy clouds floating by. I remind myself that an office with a view is a desirable one. Almost instantaneously I try to determine who it is so desirable to. I look across to my desk and see a picture of my old management team, all smiling because we just scored a perfect on our loss prevention audit. I was constantly running around, laughing, teaching, and inspiring those around me. I was skinnier; I had a group of people who worked really hard for me; and that same group of people trusted me to teach them anything they needed to get the job done. I had the best track record of training people, and inspiring the people around me to strive for excellence. I remember overhearing a couple employees talking about their general education course in music theory. “Let me know if you need any help with that class,” I would shout across our busy store. Puzzled and bewildered they would beg for more information. They find out my passion lies elsewhere than retail management.
I sit with them and fill in the gaps in their notes to make sense of this new language called music. They ask me about all the things I do musically. I tell them about Jubilate Chorale. The conductor is my former sight singing and ear training teacher from my undergraduate degree. She’s an inspiration for me. Her and my relation flourished when we traveled to ACDA in Miami. My “student” smiles as I move onto the next choir, Briarwood Chorale. The conductor is my former theory, forms and analysis, and choir director from my undergraduate degree. “I get to be the assistant conductor of this choir,” I say beaming with excitement. Finally, there is my church choir which I am in charge of. I talk about how I work with just about every age and talent group. Briarwood Chorale is filled with all music majors, Jubilate is a middle of the road mix of professional musicians and non musicians, and the church choir has one person who can read music. What a great life I have to interact with all these different levels of talent and skill.
I come back to reality to someone knocking at my door. “Wow, it’s really bright in here,” is the most often used phrase to anyone coming in. They collect the information they sought and left. I review my hand made calendar. Starting in November, I will have rehearsal four nights a week. My weekends will be filled with lessons and more rehearsal first thing every Sunday morning. Pretty soon, those weekends will be filled with dress rehearsals, supposedly restful holiday weekends and a long desire to have a real break. I take a deep breath and confirm to my weary thoughts that it is all for a goal.
This is a goal I have had since I was a little girl. I thought it would be really awesome to be called “DJ” for Doctor Jenn. I didn’t know then how I was going to get there, but I knew I wanted it. As I got older, I applied for colleges and universities as a computer science major. My parents tried to convince me that my skills lay elsewhere and that people in such a degree made excellent money. So, I made sure all the schools I looked at had music in addition to computer science because I knew I wanted to stay involved. I spent one semester as a computer science major and changed because I couldn’t pass the entry level class. It was most likely because I was in marching band, chorale and chamber singers. I learned how to sing without a piano, how to sight read, how to write a chorale, and most importantly I had met several people who had a doctorate in music. I took all my electives in music, allowing me to have almost double the required credits to graduate. I tutored all the theory classes, leading to be highly encouraged to apply for graduate school.
I chose choral conducting in my master’s degree. I moved to East Texas not knowing a single person but holding tight to that dream. I knew if I believed enough, I would be ok. My lesson teacher pushed me hard because he knew I could do it. I had a full time job, I was a full time graduate student, and I had a full time assistantship. Mastering my time management skills was essential to my future as a successful conductor and I knew it. Every semester, I had my syllabi, concert schedule and work schedule completely figured out by the first weekend of school starting. I graduated with the highest GPA I had ever achieved.
Now I move to the pursuit of my doctoral degree. I got a job on campus early enough to enroll in the tuition remission benefit. Of all the things I thought about to achieve my goal of having a doctorate, I never thought about paying for it. Finally, I am thinking about it proactively. I have my eyes set on the last step of my dream. My strong desire to daydream about scores and performance technique severely outweighs my current daydreams of appropriate office etiquette and having the corner office with a view.

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Tuesday, September 30th, 2008
10:00 am - Dear Stupid Student Please READ for once in your life!

So I teach this hybridized lab. Meaning I don't have an actual lab I just show up in their lecture give them some seemingly non complicated exercise and lead them through it. This one needed java. Java was disabled on the podium computer (after I was assured it was there and working). In disgust and anoyance I sent them loose to do it for homework. The simpulation doesn't work on 90% of known computers. I get this, it's ok. So I run it, make screen shots and post it for them to look through as this material is still on their test.

The issue. 1 student out of 40 who for no reason I can understand either can't read the paper (in english, right on the top), can't look up the website and read the intro text (which does show up on all computers). Instead I am expected to explain the basics. Either that or she really want's to get on my nerves/ is really lazy. And she isn't an international student, special needs type, or English as a second language as far as I can tell.

Usually I give students the benefit of the doubt and go with them but blatantly not reading makes me pissed. There are very few times I want to reply: "Dumb ass, read the assignment for once!", however in this situation I very much want to. Grrrrrr........

Did I mention that non science majors tend to have the worst work ethic and motivation in subjects that aren't their major.... And this class isn't even mostly science or math, it's more about social issues....

current mood: aggravated

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Friday, August 8th, 2008
11:10 am - What do you think about this article?

On the one hand I realize that words do change through time in meaning and sometimes in spelling, but I also think that in our time of spell checking, there is no real reason to suddenly accept these mistakes when they can be more easily corrected than ever before. Also, when I am reading and I come across a misspelling like this, it completely slows down my absorption of the prose and makes me wonder if this was in fact their true meaning. The interruption of comprehension and communication should be stopped, not encouraged.

Am I crazy???

Spelling "truely atrosious," says academic
By Luke Baker Thu Aug 7, 11:29 AM ET

LONDON (Reuters) - Embaressed by yor spelling? Never you mind.

Fed up with his students' complete inability to spell common English correctly, a British academic has suggested it may be time to accept "variant spellings" as legitimate.

Rather than grammarians getting in a huff about "argument" being spelled "arguement" or "opportunity" as "opertunity," why not accept anything that's phonetically (fonetickly anyone?) correct as long as it can be understood?

"Instead of complaining about the state of the education system as we correct the same mistakes year after year, I've got a better idea," Ken Smith, a criminology lecturer at Bucks New University, wrote in the Times Higher Education Supplement.

"University teachers should simply accept as variant spelling those words our students most commonly misspell."

To kickstart his proposal, Smith suggested 10 common misspellings that should immediately be accepted into the pantheon of variants, including "ignor," "occured," "thier," "truely," "speach" and "twelth" (it should be "twelfth").
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Sunday, August 3rd, 2008
7:28 pm
kt234 Hi everyone I am getting my Ed.D in Reading, language, and Literature. I have read Rosenblatt, Dewey, Wilhelm, and Vygotsky. Is there anyone out there getting a similar degree? What are you reading? Any suggestions? Thanks

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Thursday, July 31st, 2008
4:21 pm - Thesis Font Type

I`m wondering which font types are popular among grad students. I have recently moved from Arial to Tahoma although Arial looks better on screen Tahoma looks better on paper. This, at least imho. Is there anyone who actuallt uses Times New Roman? I think it's one of the most irritating and head-ache inducing fonts around. 

This because I`m curious and have done my real writing work for today.

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Friday, July 11th, 2008
3:39 pm

One of my close friends is going off to graduate school and I wanted to put a graduate school survival kit together for her birthday.

Google is no help-so, what are things you don't think you could survive without (aside from coffee and Advil or extra cash)?

I was thinking maybe a digital voice recorder (although I'm not sure if she would use it) or something that would make her life slightly easier. I also tried to find some books on Amazon.com, but I didn't really find a whole lot.

Any thoughts or advice is much appreciated! Mods, if this is not allowed, feel free to delete!

crossposted to  gradstudents

current mood: curious

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Sunday, June 29th, 2008
11:38 pm - Strange question for you...

I teach an online class every semester. I give students a little extra credit if they create an online website of somekind. This can include myspace, friendster, or even livejournal. My question is this, although I would never tell them about my livejournal account because what I write is way too personal, the friendster and myspace sites are much more general and just a place where I have networked with some of my long distance friends, just a couple here and there. I have had students request to be friended or joined or whatever its called. At first I just kind of ignored these requests, but now I get lots of them and I really need to make my mind up.

I don't see a big problem with it, but I hear those websites are kind of a meat market and I don't want a failing student to cyberstalk me or some strange thing. Is my worry overblown? What do you think about this? Have you done it? is it a bad idea?

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Thursday, June 12th, 2008
9:59 am - GRE chemistry subject test

Does anyone know a good guide book for the GRE Chemistry exam?  I took the exam before my first round of grad school and did alright with out studying.  Now that i want to go back... and to a better school.  I hear not so great things about kaplan and barron from my co-workers.

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Wednesday, May 21st, 2008
3:25 am - Student evaluations

I know that students who are getting bad grades and who are lazy will blame the instructor in their student evaluations, and there is always multiple numbers of these students, yet it still completely turns me to slime after working by ass off on what I consider to have been a very productive semester which included many compliments from students, to end it reading through anonymous insults. It just brings out the worst of some students, they get their chance to judge you back, and some take advantage of this by out right lying in a seeming attempt to get you fired???

ops, long sentence, huh? Rant continues...

I thought I would see if I could provide a space for others to vent and share on this topic. Or do you all get nothing but glowing reviews? Another thing that ticks me off, I literally could just give all of the students A's and get wonderful reviews, right? But I happen to believe that grades should actually have some kind of meaning and reward those students who were smart and/or worked very hard.

It's all so very irritating, it is making me honestly consider stacking a large final exam and paper for after they write their evaluations, so they won't really know if they are going to fail until then end. I don't structure things that way now because to really learn I feel you need more smaller assignments with feedback. But, what if it gets me a bad name when I am still only working part time and looking for a permanent job?

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Tuesday, May 20th, 2008
12:46 pm

I hope this is allowed. Anyway, I just wrote a book about life after college called Ramen Noodles, Rent and Resumes: An After-College Guide to Life. I also set up a blog at http://www.ramenrentresumes.com

I'd like to interview people for the blog to show real-life college grads (grad students are great, too) and ask them about their 20-something experiences.

Please email me at jerseygal526@yahoo.com if you're interested:)

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Wednesday, April 30th, 2008
8:08 pm - Grading stress

I have become so cynical. When I am reading a paper and it suddenly becomes good I instantly cut and paste a sentence or two into google and so a search and yep, again and again I find that students just copied it from some place. If they were just making a mistake, it might be one of their references they cite. If they were being devious, they put some random citation after it that has no connection to the original source.

Should they just get a zero for the assignment, a Fail for the entire class when the paper is only 10% of it, or should they get expelled from the entire program/school? I am a bleeding heart and leading towards telling them its expulsion and letting them sweat it out for a few days before telling them its just a zero for the assignment.

I am also becoming so cynical that if it's a good paper, I am starting to just assume I can't find the source of the plagiarism. I guess there is a new system at our library where you can run a paper through and it can tell you what percentage is plagiarized. I am just going to automatically do this with all papers rather than spend all of the time doing google searches.

Do the rest of you increasingly find lots of plagiarism in our digital age? Not only do I warn them over and over about this, but its even covered in one of our text books as a problem of globalization and increased internet usage! I also am starting to enjoy badly worded papers, because I know actual thought went into it, even if they are hard to read.

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